Leadership Capability

Coaching vs commanding - creating independent leaders

Coaching builds leadership capability, strengthens retention, and creates sustainable performance. Here's how to start.

By Aaron Penwill, Founder of Crux Performance®

6 min read

Key Takeaways

  • Commanding creates short-term compliance; coaching builds long-term capability.
  • Coaching cultures see 21% higher profitability and significantly better retention.
  • The shift from commanding to coaching requires patience and structured practice.
  • Leaders who coach develop judgment in others, not just task completion.
  • Sustainable performance comes from teams that can think, not just follow.

Commanding is efficient in the moment but expensive over time. It gets things done but doesn't build the capacity to handle the next challenge independently.

Coaching takes longer in the short term but compounds. Each conversation builds capability that transfers to future situations.

When Commanding Makes Sense

In genuine emergencies, clarity and direction matter more than development. When time is critical and stakes are high, decisive leadership is appropriate.

The problem is when emergency mode becomes the default. Constant commanding creates dependency and erodes initiative.

How to Start Building a Coaching Culture

Start with questions before answers. Ask 'What have you tried?' before offering solutions. Ask 'What would you recommend?' before sharing your view.

Create space for reflection. After projects, ask what worked and what could be better. Make learning a visible part of the workflow.

  • Replace answers with questions whenever possible
  • Create structured reflection after projects
  • Model the curiosity you want to see in others
  • Celebrate learning from mistakes, not just success

Build a coaching culture

Crux Coaching helps leaders make the shift from commanding to coaching.

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